Hey lovely!
Maybe you’re reading this because you’ve been feeling kinda low lately… maybe you feel pretty happy already but have that gut feeling that something in your life is missing.
Either way, keep on reading and you’ll learn how to be your happiest self and feel completely fulfilled within your life.
First things first… you need you think of everything in your life that is not bringing you joy or purpose and let it go.
I want you to grab a pen and paper and list everything in your life that is making you feel: down, angry, scared, jealous, tired, or any other negative emotion.
Got your list?
Now cross off everything on your list that you can erase out of existence.
Not everything on your list will be something you can cross off… for example, struggling with money to pay the bills isn’t something you can just toss away and ignore.
For these things, I want you to list an action that you can take to change that thing from a negative emotion to a positive emotion.
Basically, set a goal that will eventually make it so that you are able to cross that thing off of your list.
An example of this could be: If you’re struggling with money to pay the bills, an action to take would be saving money by not getting that $9 coffee on the way to work every morning… another action could be starting a money jar and putting aside any extra change you have to begin saving.
Work towards these goals.
It can be easy to fall off and lose motivation – look back at this list and remember the reason you started it in the first place.
Next, I want you to define your true happiness.
Write down what you want in your dream life. Write down what makes you happy, what makes you feel fulfilled.
- Is it a sense of belonging that makes you feel happy?
- Is it the feeling of having a purpose or making an impact that makes you feel happy?
- Is it having absolute freedom in your daily life that makes you happy?
Whatever it is, write it down. How are you supposed to be your happiest self if you can’t define what it is that will make you truly happy?
Now just like we did before, we are going to list actions that you can take to help you get to the bottom of those things that would make you happy.
Don’t think too big here, think realistic. Think of the small steps that you can take that will eventually lead to larger steps. Don’t stress yourself out by setting extreme goals – you need to take it one step at a time.
Now that you have your actions or goals that you need to take to get those things that will make you happy, you need to turn these actions into habits. Make these actions a routine in your day to day life. Make them something that you look forward to GET to do each day rather than something you’re dreading that you HAVE to do.
Here are some key tips to help you turn these actions into habits:
1. Make an appointment with yourself.
Think about it like a doctor appointment – you might not want to go but you’re still going to. You’re not just going to skip your appointment.
Set a reminder on your phone or write your action on your calendar (if you’re still old school like me and have a wall calendar on your fridge) and don’t let yourself skip this appointment for yourself.
2. Make it fun, make it relaxing.
Create a happy place, or a safe place to take your actions. Maybe you have an office that you like to do work in, maybe you like to sit on the couch with a candle and a blanket, maybe you like to go to a nearby cafe and put your headphones in. Whatever works for you and makes you excited to work on your actions.
Along with a happy place, consider the best time to take your actions. Are you most motivated in the morning when everything is still and quiet? Are you most motivated after dinner time? Be consistent and make it a routine.
3. Reward yourself!
Remember when I said to take small steps instead of setting one huge action goal?
Each time you complete one small step, cross it off. It will feel so good to see that you’re getting closer to your end goal. Each time you cross off an action, treat yourself a little.
Now we need to talk a little bit about your well-being: health and self-care
Exercising sucks (I think so at least) but let’s be honest, exercising can really help improve your mood and overall thought on life, not just your body.
Yes – exercising obviously has its physical advantages. But it also increases your mood and your energy. If you’re someone who is never active, you’re going to feel lazy and tired more often. And I have to say it… Lazy and tired people are generally not the happiest of people.
Eating right – I am a sucker for chips and salsa, popcorn, noodles, and all things unhealthy. But you need to find balance.
Eating superfoods will help your body to feel better, to look better, and be more energized. Also, the benefits that eating healthy foods has on your skin is huge. Clear skin. That right there is enough to make me happy (almost, lol).
My favorite part of this entire post… take care of yourself. Practice self-care.
Practicing self-care is no joke. It makes all the difference in your mind, body, and soul. Do things for you, things that you like, things that make you happy, things that expand your mind.
Check out this list of self-care activities you can do alone.
Okay girl. Do you have the recipe for your happiest self?
Let’s review real quick…
- Let go of all things not bringing you joy
- Define your true happiness
- Set small actions to get to your big end goal
- Turn actions into habits
- Stay healthy
- Practice self-care